Dancing, Singing, Acting Crazy

Without question I live in a mostly left brain world – very focused on the analytical, the objective, the logical.  My work world is definitely inherently left brain – an information technology shop where we deal with bits and bytes and networks and switches and sequential, logical stuff.  I’m married to an engineer, who although he has lots of right brain creativity, still loves Excel spreadsheets and conditional formatting and project plans.

I do my best to inject right brain into my life – things like intuition, wholistic purpose, the whole being bigger than the sum of the parts.  I believe that the right and left brain are as tightly integrated as, well, two halves of the brain and that we miss much by focusing on one set of characteristics to the exclusion of the other set.  Some of my best IT staff have a fine arts background and their creativity has made their sequentiality sing.

The sad observation is, though, that those of us who live and operate mostly in a left brain world often don’t give ourselves permission to act out of our right brain.  We try to be very serious and believable and predictable – and often all of that is just a shield to avoid vulnerability and to be safe.  No opportunity to be mocked here.  No sir.

My father is a work-hardened rancher that was raised in the Great Depression.  Duty and hard work and one foot in front of the other day in and day out were and are the norm for him.  I have huge respect for him and in many ways he is my hero.  He’s definitely left brain in his actions.  I have a very clear memory as a young teenager of some song playing on the radio and, completely out of character, him singing and kinda dancing.  And I remember being astonished – I’m pretty sure it showed on my face.  I had never ever seen him do that before and I have never ever seen him do that again.  I’ve always wondered why and hoped it wasn’t because my astonishment touched a wounded place in him.

Now that’s not to say that there isn’t value in protecting ourselves from ourselves.  Chores do have to get done, reports do need to be written, children do need to be fed.  But I think the world is a sadder place when we don’t create space to be vulnerable, to dance, to sing, to act just a bit crazy.  I hope that I build that into my own spaces and create spaces for others that are safe for right-braining it a bit.  We all need magic in our lives…

One response to “Dancing, Singing, Acting Crazy

  1. Research has shown God made the bridge between right & left brain much more fluid in women than in men. So you really were standing on holy ground when you saw your dad spontaneously do a jig to accompany music he was hearing!

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